Well, there are days like this; when you are completely exhausted and would really not want to explain your state of mind through words. There are things that you’d like to say or hear that would comfort you but triggering that conversation with people is just too debilitating. The only thing that seem to provide comfort is that one phone call, miles away to a friend with the same turn of mind. You grouse and grapple about everything and everyone for hours, without being adjudicated. Its one of its kind, the ultimate boon of life in form of friends, who seem to infer every sigh and unusual twinkle in your eyes.
There are only a few who can read your thoughts from across the room, the weird expression and the unscheduled smile. The sarcasm of the sole suffers the most, there are no takers for the same. For people like me, who love sarcasm; its the irony of life, the only way to convey contempt that I specialise in, with no special effort intended.
I miss my friends, we all have different interests, but we all settle for same things, mocking at merge people, gobbling food and laughing insanely at things only we decipher. These are the times when you feel there is so much imbecility around, you see the intellect as the light you see in a distance in your past or future.
There is a time around in life that you make friends, but they more like acquaintances. On the other hand there are some with whom you don’t really bother maintaining the formalities, sending the stupid forwarded emails and SMSs. There are times when we would just schedule a group Skype call, or meet occasionally admist official meetings and conferences. They don’t seem to bother whether you are exclusively committed to the cause of having communication or talking the relationship to the next level. To my wonder these are the only committed relationships we possess, that don’t turn drab with time. All you need to find are the right people those who are made for you, you walk with you forever.
If a few people think that I sound like maintaining a good friendship needs no investment are wrong. No vehicle runs without fuel, some need alcohol and some just need you. You, the greatest gift you can give to others is you—the real you. So, pull off your mask and be authentic. And the second most important thing, you have to be a friend to have a friend. As it is said, "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”
It just is that blissful feeling, being loved unconditionally; that could only be received from a friend. You can have friends in various forms, a parent who crossed the age bridge with you, a sibling who knows you deep within, your husband, which is the best kind; and none the less, the good old kind. The buddies you make cross the phases of life. They know, understand and cherish the enduring bond of love. What else can be said, "We might not know we are seeking people who best enrich our lives, but somehow on a deep subconscious level we absolutely are. Whether the bond is temporary or permanent, whether it succeeds or fails, fate is simply a configuration of choices that combine with others to shape the relationships that surround us. We cannot choose our family, but we can choose our friends, and we sometimes, before we even meet them."
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